If you are trying to reset your account password then don't forget to check spam folder in your mailbox. Also Mark it as "not spam" or you won't be able to click on the link.
I would say ki Ap option 2 say approach karna cahiye. Vini ko khud vinay ko approach karna cahiye. Agar vinay approach rat ko vini ko sote hue touch karega use mehsoos ho sakta hai ki vinay jabardasti kar rha hai.