I am married for the last 14 years and blessed with 2 sons aged 12 and 2. She is a very beautiful, caring wife. She is 37 years old now, our marriage was an arranged one. However, even before marriage I came to know that she had a serious relationship with her ex, however I did not hesitate to marry.
My life was going very peacefully until in 2021 she started to change. Before that she used to manage me, my family, my parents, my elder son and my financial affairs.
At that time we even had a good sexual life, but at one point I figured out that she is more interested to stay in her mother's house which is just 5 mins away from mine. I also figured out that she was not interested in my family anymore. She was even not enjoying sex with me. Time flew and lockdown took place. At that time I came to know that she was chatting, video calling someone. But my heart broke when I found out that she was on contraceptive pills however we were not mating for months. I started to follow her and found out that she was going to meet her ex bf who is also staying in the same building of her mother. That man is almost 50 years old and single used to live in europe when we were getting married.
I could not tolerate and had a fight with my wife. This issue even escalated to our parents. That man was forced to vacate the flat in that biulding. My wife appologised to me and i also forgave her considering that was her first love and mistake.
We even started to love again and planned for a second baby and my wife gave birth our 2nd son in 2022.
Everything was going well until 2 months ago my eldest son told me that when I am in office, a person visits his mother and they lock the bedroom and stay inside for more than hours. Soon I discovered that since 2021, my wifes affair never stopped, I was just fooled. Now my wife is so furiois that she is not affraid of our family. She wants to divorce me. But at this age I do not want. I am watching her getting fuck by her old bf.
what can i do ??
Bro i advise you the googly strategy,you wife is in love with her boyfriend and most importantly he's giving her the better sex,so you see she's not entirely at fault for your inadequacy,you'll have to be very strategic here,you'll have to play a cuckold for some time,offer your wife her freedom in exchange for keeping the family intact,let her enjoy her sex and in a few months the new relationship energy will calm down,in the meantime work on yourself,join the gym get in prime physical shape and let out the anger on the iron,contact a sexologist to improve your performance - the change in your personality will be noticed by your wife,do not be present when they have sex,give a clear message that you've given her the freedom for her and the family's happiness but you're not part of the action,gather as much evidence as possible to be used later,keep your options open for new relationship,wait for a few months and see what happens,she's not a fool to throw away the family without reason,give her the freedom and also improve your value,tell her that if she wants to divorce anyway you're ready to move onto other women,this is your only card,the boat if already half sunk,give the relationship another chance,don't go divorce too early because after that too she'll be having legal sex with her boyfriend,the biggest problem is that he wants to marry her,had he been married it would be is everyone's interest that they remain lovers,and your wife can develop feelings for you too,she does love you just that she's getting better love and sex from her boyfriend,use your son to keep the relationship going for a few months.read the unwanted houseguest and it's sequel the mouse that roared on Xforum and x forum that's an intense story like yours,knowing me and my wife too is great,although stories they train your mind to pursue an alrernate method to combat the situation not that slam bang divorce,it will ruin the family.