Bhai and Behen log,
Ek advice chahiye, aap logo se.
My name- Ricki., Her name- Shristi ( Name changed to protect privacy)
On Tinder, i met Shristi in 2024 start, a few months ago. Bohat hi acchi ladki, respectful, compassionate, dusro ka aur apna khyal rakhe wali type.
I am financially independent, so is she. we both have somewhat stable job, family bhi thodi bohat open minded hai. Look wise, she is at 8/10 but has a beautiful soul. I'm also dekhne Mai theek thak hoon, Body shape theek thak hai thanks to gym.
Baat yeh hai ki, 2017 Mai Mera 8 saal ka breakup hua, uske baad, Maine completely khudko career Mai jhokh diya. Job, settlement, karne ke baad, ab I'm almost 30, aur I joined tinder with hopes of meeting someone to date and to be in a relationship.
Bohat ladkiya matchup Hui, baat bhi kya, lekin mera heart ka frequency match nahi hua, so kabhi friendship se baat age nahi barhi.
Then came Shristi one day, aur kya bataun bhai log, iss zamane Mai aisi ladki exist karti hai pata nahi tha. Usse baat karke laga ki use Mai sadiyo se janta hoon. Ek dum selfless ladki, pehle toh, hum log bus as a friend baat karte the, she was respectful, lekin dheere dhedre bandi apne taraf se mera care karne lagi jaise: job pe kabhi call karti thi, ki kaise ho, khana khaya? Raat ko late ghar pahucha toh call karti ki aaj late ho gaye, khana khaya? Subhe subhe office Jane ke pehle good morning aur acche se office Jana etc etc., matlab bilkul ek acche gf/ biwi ke jaise,
Mera yakin mano, Mai uske behaviour aur uski kindness dekhkar apne aap ko ussey pyar karne ke liye rok nahi paya. Maine mazak Mai use ek baar kaha ki, month end hai, paise ki Kami hai, so lunch nahi kya office Mai, usne immediately paise toh transfer kare hi, plus Zomato Wale ko mere office bheja with lunch. Aur fir Ghar pahuchkar, gussa bhi Kari, ki agar mujhe dost mante ho, toh mujhe kyu nahi kaha ki paise hai hai. Mai uske selfless dekh kar samjh gaya, ki mujhe uske saath hi apne life ko guzarni hai. So, Maine usko seedha kaha, ki Shrisht hum tumse pyar karne lage hai, aur hum chahte hai ki tum hamari gf bano aur 2-3 saal baad tumse shaadi karne ka irada hai.
Shristi pehle toh chup rahi, uske baad usne Rona shuru kar diya. Aur roti rahi lagatar. Mera dil baith gaya, aur usko immediately console karne ki koshish karta raha.
For thode der baad, use mujhe kaha ki She doesn't deserve me, aur usne apna poora past keh diya aur sab kuch ek dum a to z mujhe bataya including related private topics. Sab sunne ke baad, woh bechari ne mujhe strictly kaha, ki mujh par tars khaakar koi decision mat lena. Mene use yeh kaha, ki mujhe fark nahi padta past tumhara kya tha, tum agar present mai mujhse pyar karti ho, aur future Mai loyal aur commited rahogi mere saath, toh mai khushi khushi tumhare saath zindagi jee lunga.
Uske baad, we both disconnected the call and slept. Subhe subhe uska call aya aur usne kaha, hum apse pyar karte hai lekin hum chahte hai ki hum dono jaldbaazi na kare, aap aur mehnat karo aur career growth Karo, Mai bhi apne job Mai growth karti hoon, uske baad 2025 Mai dono officially relationship declare karenge. Maine usko kaha, mujhpar vishwas nahi hai, toh usne kaha, vishwas hai, magar hum nahi chahte ki humare liye aap apne career ko derail karo. I felt so proud of her, usko kaha, ki I won't ever leave you, toh usne kaha even she won't leave me.
from then, Mai bhi uske liye extra care karne laga. Aur woh bhi mujhe, had se zyada pyar karne lagi, raat ko late night usse baat karne ka man karta lekin daat kar, fir pyar se samjhati ki subhe jaldi uthna hai. Itni samajhdar ladki woh bhi mujhe mili, mujhe vishwas nahi hota tha. Ghar par gharwalo ko bhi uske bare mai bataya, photo bhi dekhai, they accepted her. Uske ghar par bhi same mahol, uske parents bhi accepted.
Aur sab theek thak chal raha tha. Life Mai pheli baar aisa feel ho Raha tha ki gharwalo ke alave, koi mujhe bepanah pyar kar raha hai. Office Mai uske liye i started to work hard so that I get promoted soon.
1 month pehle, usne mujhe kaha, ki Ricki, mere school ke dost aur mai, kuch din ke liye Chennai Jana chahte hai for vacation Maine usko kaha, tum nischint hoke jao, tension mat lo. I have 100% faith on her. She wanted me to come but office chutti nahi de raha tha. I contacted by Tamil friends ( brother from another mother)
In Chennai etc in case she face any troubles so that they can help her.
Ab actual matter pe,
10 July 2024 Tak sab theek tha, hum dono ke beech koi jhagda nahi, lekin after that, uska baat chit Kam ho gaya, woh call bhi karna Kam kar diya, text bhi nahi karti, mujhe tension hone lage ki shayad woh kisi problem nai hai, magar raat ko dekhta ki woh insta stories per vacation ke stories, status etc, WhatsApp par status etc set karti thi. Jis ladki pehle apne se mujhe dinner , lunch etc ke bare mai puchti,.woh started becoming cold and distant.
Maine usko 15 July 2024 ko seedha poocha ki, did i do something wrong. Toh usne kaha, aap Galat kar hi nahi sakte, lekin mujhe waqt chahiye. Maine kaha theek hai, agar tumko lagta hai ki we rushed with pyar mohabbat, i have no problem to wait.
Uske baad, we said good night, for ab tak Mon, 22 July 2024, uska ek call ya message nahi aaya. Lekin woh what'sapp/ instagram status, stories lagati rahti hai. Mere dost hai kaha, ki dekh Bhai, utna hi pyar karo jitna tumko mil raha hai, agar woh tumhe ignore kar rahi hai then same ignore her and enjoy your life.
Mujhe kuch nahi samjh aa raha hai, ki what should I do? Should I continue to wait for her to contact me or just forget and move on.
This is why I need your help, this long post was necessary to make you understand a little the dynamics between us two so that you can make a better decision.
Thank you
