I am married for the last 14 years and blessed with 2 sons aged 12 and 2. She is a very beautiful, caring wife. She is 37 years old now, our marriage was an arranged one. However, even before marriage I came to know that she had a serious relationship with her ex, however I did not hesitate to marry.
My life was going very peacefully until in 2021 she started to change. Before that she used to manage me, my family, my parents, my elder son and my financial affairs.
At that time we even had a good sexual life, but at one point I figured out that she is more interested to stay in her mother's house which is just 5 mins away from mine. I also figured out that she was not interested in my family anymore. She was even not enjoying sex with me. Time flew and lockdown took place. At that time I came to know that she was chatting, video calling someone. But my heart broke when I found out that she was on contraceptive pills however we were not mating for months. I started to follow her and found out that she was going to meet her ex bf who is also staying in the same building of her mother. That man is almost 50 years old and single used to live in europe when we were getting married.
I could not tolerate and had a fight with my wife. This issue even escalated to our parents. That man was forced to vacate the flat in that biulding. My wife appologised to me and i also forgave her considering that was her first love and mistake.
We even started to love again and planned for a second baby and my wife gave birth our 2nd son in 2022.
Everything was going well until 2 months ago my eldest son told me that when I am in office, a person visits his mother and they lock the bedroom and stay inside for more than hours. Soon I discovered that since 2021, my wifes affair never stopped, I was just fooled. Now my wife is so furiois that she is not affraid of our family. She wants to divorce me. But at this age I do not want. I am watching her getting fuck by her old bf.
what can i do ??
Dear friend,
Normally I will not believe any story I read here but replying on the off chance that you are genuine.
You asking a question here means
1. You are desperate and have nobody to share it with
2. You just want to see people react.
If 1. Then listen to some serious advice.
GROW A PAIR OF BALLS.
In a relationship Female is the nurturing while Male is the leader.
If she has given up nurturing that means she no longer respects you to lead. It really doesn't matter what you earn, what you are worth or how much you "LOVE" her. You are DEAD to her. You are a useless babysitter who will nurture her young while She get the Banging she "DESERVES".
You should get a mutual consent divorce ASAP. Record her with her BF. Get a good divorce lawyer. Female will be better as they are less likely to be soft on woman. Before she realises that her BF has been pumping her before dumping get free of her. If they marry all the better.
As far as remaining single and lonely, you have a 12 year old son. You have a ready made best friend waiting for you to wake up and look at him. House work can be done by a maid for cheaper than what your wife is charging you in terms of uncertainty and mental pain.
And if you still seek female companionship and really want relationship…
Improve your self. I guess you are in late 30 early 40. Groom your personality, exercise and gain confidence that you have lost. Be an Alpha.
If you truly get rid of that leech now and work on your self, here is my prediction.
3 years from now that BF will start aging and stop having any attraction to the banged up cooch. Right now it is your crying that is keeping him interested. The moment she is free from you she will latch on him and he will start to separate from her. She will then get banged by everyone and everything with a dick. When you improve and at 40 she starts to fade she will suddenly remember that she is a loving mother and great wife. She will then try to use your kids to get you. DNA test your younger child and then become best friend with your older son. You will attract good women like flies to hot Jalebi.
As far as today is concerned - chin up and one step at a time.
